My mother and I have always had a toxic relationship. I have been the scapegoat my whole life. No matter what I do it’s always wrong. It all came to a head about a year ago. She got mad at me and stopped talking to me and my husband and children but wouldn’t tell me why. I think part of it may have been that my sister in law, who was amazing, passed away and she was jealous of the attention. One thing she admitted was that she was mad I chose to go see my sister in law in the hospital instead of going Christmas shopping with her. My sister, the golden child, didn’t want to be involved so I respected her wishes and didn’t talk about it. Well now, my mother has told me she doesn’t even want to try to have a relationship with me. My sister then called- obviously having talked to my mom all year, and screamed at me for ruining her family. So now I have lost my whole childhood family (my dad passed away a few years ago). How do people deal with the grief and rejection? Logically I know she is a narc, but it’s so hard not taking it personally. I have worked my whole life for her to love me. I am finally successful professionally and have lost weight. I am my best self in terms of what she always wanted. Yet this is when she completely rejects even trying to have a relationship with me and has taken my sister too. For no reason. Again, I can tell myself it’s not me, but it’s so hard to lose everyone and not second guess or think there is something I should be doing…