Hi all Me back again, but I have checked with the mods, and am assured it's ok to post here again....

2 years ago now, well no, not 2 years ago, more than that because pregnancy takes 9 months sister anounces she is pregnant. The father who is not involved lives practically on the other side of the world, but it was thought/assumed/hoped for, by Y.S that he would/was coming over to live with YS and the baby obviously when it was decided that the baby was being had, we all happy etc, I mean it was unplanned, and unnecessary, but everyone just accepted it and got on with it, but as Y.S still lives at home, it's a huge thing for my own parents to be basically raising another baby, my sis needs a lot of help, wouldn't manage if my mum wasn't there, in my opinion at least before baby was born, I had asked, if I could please when baby came along, learn to feed, etc, was told no, hoped that when baby came along this would change When baby was born, I was suffering from a pretty bad bout of Sciatica, so couldn't hold baby for very long, in fact I couldn't really do anything for a good 9 months, walking, sitting up, lying down, all were extremely painful. Even though this was the case though, it didn't mean I wanted to be excluded altogether. At some point, I can't remember when, because I had mentioned it really hurt when everyone else was going around holding baby, soothing etc, and only one not doing was me, i was explicitly told that I never pick up baby by myself, because, in case I haven't noticed those were the exact words I'm blind. So, being blind makes me incapable of looking after a baby, apparently I was absolutely at the time, and still am, devastated by this. I tried talking about it at the time, but it made no difference to add insult to injury, my mother sided with my sister. “ why do you have to do something just because everyone else is doing it? ” “ Why can't you see things from a mother's point of view? ” maybe because I'm not one????? My mother could not understand why I was so upset, and even got angry at me for crying etc. Eventually, as usual, I apologised just to get the atmosphere to stop This was basically just a holiday romance, sis met this guy on holiday, went and visited a few times over a period of 2 years, and the last time, came back pregnant. my mum never said a word to her, because my bio dad, not involved either, so as far as mum concerned, herself and Y.S the same now, both deserted by guys when it mattered the most.... bla bla bla..... it's just accepted we never even talk about the fact that this happened now. What would you do if something you had no control over ( so in my case my blindness ) was used against you and used as a reason you couldn't interact with the new baby unsupervised???? put this together with all the other stuff, and I really am starting to feel like lc/vlc is absolutely justified Thanks to anyone who responds, appreciate it edit to add, YS I used as abbreviation for younger sister