My mother is a sick woman. She’s always had ailments and heart troubles, since I was in elementary school. I am now I’m grad school, I have a lot of shit going on because what grad student doesn’t. I don’t visit home (5 hours away) too often, and when I do I will keep my time at my mom’s very short because of the narcissists that live there (mom and older sister). I decided to go no contact on them for a bit because I’m in my last semester before graduation for my MSW. Their bs is crazy right now and I don’t have the mental capacity for it. My cousin who regularly checks on me had asked my mom if she was planning on coming to my graduation. She immediately loses her shit and goes off on how I haven’t contacted her for a month, and who does that to their sick mom. Cousin responds that my mom is in fact, the mom so why would she not call her daughter who lives alone in a city 5 hours from her…? Mom responds “well if your mother was alive would you not contact her for a month knowing she was sick?” Which…wtf. My aunt died from CANCER so why even try to bring that up? Like I needed another reason to keep my distance.