I have a really strained relationship with my mother. I could go on and on about it, but mostly she was neglectful to all her children, mainly me because I was the only one out of her 3 children to actually live with her.  

I was pregnant at 18, and she was more than unsupportive, even though she said she will respect my choice. She did very hurtful things, and was emotionally distant. I was going to college and working and needed help with childcare. Her response was i chose to have the child, so it is my responsibility, and she didn't help with anything. That's fine, she was correct. I did choose to have my child. I moved out and got married shortly after which upset her because she depended on me to pay for things. When I was pregnant with my second child, she told me that my sister and I need to stop having children so we can take care of her.

  Basically since she has said that, she has been extremely low contact with me. That was 4 years ago. She has never done anything for any of her grandchildren, or children.  

My mom hasn't worked since 2008. She just chooses not to. She gets social security and disability, but that is not much. She lives with someone right now, but will need a place to stay starting in November. I have a 4 bed/2 bath. When we moved I offered her a room because I knew she would need a place to stay eventually. I offered it when we moved for her to move with us because that would have changed the way we set up our home. My brother in law lives with us, so he has a room, my husband and I have the master, and each of our children have their own room. Had she moved in from the beginning, the girls would have shared a room, but they have their own set up because it has been months and she gave no indication that she would move with us.

  Life circumstance happened with my cousin and she needed a place to stay until she finds a new place to live. My mom called and was like, “well, they can just stay in the room I am gonna have.” I called my cousin and let her know that she could stay for a month, but it would be my daughter’s room. My mom was under the impression that I was gonna just leave a room open for an indefinite amount of time just waiting for her.

  It has been a couple of days, and it is stressful having 5 extra people here (my cousin, her 3 children, and her sister). My youngest hates not being in her room, the house is always loud, her parenting is way different than mine, and we just want our space back. I texted my mom and told her she is going to have to find some other place because having extra people here is just too stressful for me and my family. She texts me back and says, “I’m sorry to hear I’m not your family, but I understand.” I don’t know why that got to me. I just broke down crying. Even though my family are my children and husband, and I should not care what she thinks. I haven’t responded because I know I’d just hurt her feelings, but I think it is time to just drop the rope