My boyfriend (M20) and I (F21) been together for 3 and a half years. His family is so infuriating. And they have him brainwashed essentially. His parents have zero boundaries or respect. They treat him like a child. About 3 months ago him and I moved into an apartment together. I would have preferred to stay home and save money but with my family situation it was just not an option. I couldn't afford to move out on my own and my boyfriend felt he was ready so we went for it. So far so good. But his parents prior to moving out told him he was an idiot and he was making a huge mistake and he doesn't know how to function on his own or know how expensive it is out there in the real world etc. They told him he was stupid for moving out with some girl because he has no idea what it's like living with a woman and that he wants to act grown etc. Regardless we moved out and things have been good. I've always been very independent but my boyfriend has alot of learning to do. I think it's good for him to have moved out so he can learn to be more independent because his parents prefer dependency. Recently his very old and very sick grandma was released from the hospital after multiple surgeries. She had cancer then it came back and then they surgically removed it again and it was a very long process. His grandmother lives with his parents. When she left the hospital the doctor told his parents that his grandma either needed an in home 24 hr nurse or to be put in an assisted living facility. Because his mom is a nurse she decided that she was just going to keep her home and help her herself. But his mother basically hates his grandmother and treats her like garbage and is constantly leaving her alone for long periods of time or not helping her properly. So today his family went up north to their other house which is a little over an hour away and left his grandma and their dog home. His grandma called him late last night and asked if he can stop by to bring her food. And he of course does then later on he receives a text from his dad asking him to go to their house and let out the dog and feed him. We were running errands and he didn't see the text until a little while ago and answered that he had already been to the house but could go back if needed. He dad answers back that he sent him that text an hour ago and just forget it and f*ck the dog guess he has to starve till we get home. 🙄 the level of manipulation in that boils my blood. They leave home and don't worry about their responsibilities and then blame him. And this is a constant issue. They constantly leave the dog and his grandma home alone and expect him to drop everything to help them. And because his parents pay his car insurance my boyfriend refuses to stand up to them. I tell him it's not worth it for $150 a month to be treated like garbage. But his parents have embedded in his head that car insurance is much more expensive and that it is imperative that he saves every penny he makes. This seriously just makes me so angry. They're terrible parents and treat the people around them like garbage and have zero boundaries the lack of respect disgusts me. And then I'm expected to be nice to them. Such a frustrating situation.