Alright story time.

When I was a newlywed (3yr ago). DH and I were in the process of moving across the state and had been housing JNSister’s childhood items (12 boxes). I had reached out to let JNS know that her boxes would be staying at our current residence (family owned and ok’d). JNS didn’t think things would be safe there so she hired some random from Craigslist to move it for her.

Since getting married I had to put into place two boundaries for JNS

1: do not ship things to me to mail to her without my permission. First 2: respect my time zone and not call in the middle of the night

I let her know DHs scheduled and when he could meet and help, and then gave her his # so I didn’t have to play middle man. i was pregnant and the apartment was moldy I wasn’t allowed there for safety

About 20min later I get a call from DH letting me know that my JNS had demanded that he move the boxes after he got off his 12hr shift so the hired help could move it the next day. Not one of the specified available days.

I sprung into action and let JNS know that her behavior was unacceptable. JNS proceeded to leave countless angry messages on DH phone over the corse of 8 hours (DH stopped replying after JNS messaged “you coward sicking your bulldog of a wife on me!”[she is my sister])

Some note-able quotes “We are family you HAVE to” “Your parents would be so disappointed to know how you turned out!” “Be a Man and take care of your own problems” “You think you’re setting ‘boundaries’ you’re just CONTROLLING”

Note: JNS lives overseas and had NEVER met DH at the time of her tantrum.

Edit: forgot to also mention I had offered to take her belongings to another relative three months earlier as long as she arranged it. She became upset with me and ghosted me the above conversation was my reminder boxes were not coming with me.