Few years ago my mother moved house at 60 to the neighbouring country where she has few friends outside of work. Shw left our country because she wanted a restart after divorce anf losing touch with most friends/family. She lives with my sister upon whom she is emotionally dependent. She struggles to emotionally regulate herself and often conversations can involce navigating strategically-targeted appeals for reassurances.

My sister feels that this burden dusproportionately affects her more than me, and she'd be right. She intends to pursue a Master's. There's this overwhelming guilt about leaving our mother in this country by herself, as she's seems very easily depressed by living alone.

Same time I'm frightened of taking any responsibility for her, beyond seeing her every couple months. I do really love her, but I just really don't trust her to let me build a life independently when she seems so desperate for acknowledgment in all of our reactions. Nothing evil about it, just, well, yeah. Like I deserce my independencr, but she also deserves not to live her days depressed anf alone in anothet country.