Okay, so here it goes. My wife and I have been in a game (guess I wouldn't call it a swinging game) for some years. We have had male partners who we meet, become friends with and share social time and sexy time as the 3 of us. We are looking for something a little more but are unsure where to start. We are looking to see if there is anywhere in IA where there is a swingers club or at least a place to find out where and when there are swinger parties. We have talked a lot about this and its something we would like to at least see/try but we want to dip the toes in. We have done a bit of reading and even listened to some pod casts and from what we have researched, you don't have to have sex at these. You can go, get comfortable, meet people and maybe touch or be touched a little to start out. Is this true? We like to try something, talk, decide and then try again if we both feel comfortable with it.

Thank you for any advise or information you have on this