Hello all, The infidelity keeps happening and happening and being downplayed. We are at a point that every time am out of town, She dumps the kids on family to either go out of town to cheat or to brings men over to our house to cheat. This week, she disabled the home security cameras to sneak a man into our house after the kids went to bed... so that she could "talk and have dinner with him". She got caught when them talking in the kitchen woke our kids up. He lied to her about his name, and that he is married, and has kids of his own and she is still talking to him because they are "just friends". The phone records show them talking and texting tons. This is at least the third different guy this has happened with. She had made a dating app profile saying she was separated and "wants to date but nothing serious" and put as her headline "only friends, no BS". She promised me that while we worked on our marriage she wouldn't keep cheating or make a dating app profile. But now she has told me she's getting all the kids to go over to family tonight so that she can finally "rest". But I am pretty sure she is having the guy come over. Her burner phone rang while i was video chatting her earlier and she rejected the call quickly and turned white. I called her out on it and she said oh i am just charging it because its battery got low, but she doesn't use it. If you don't use it, why is the battery low or it need to be charged?

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Yes I know whats going on. She promises that she is not cheating anymore... but I think we all know the truth. Any ideas on what to do or proceed? She said she would like to call again tonight after the kids leave so we can talk about how to keep working on improving our communication and trust and work out our stuff, but that she also does want to get some "rest" since the kids will be gone.

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UPDATE:

As I suspected - She temporarily snoozed the security cameras to keep from recording him coming into the house but I logged onto the app, about 25 seconds in time, to hit manually record and got a video of him walking in. Confronted her on the phone and asked him to leave, he told me he wasn't trying to do anything and that he just liked my wife because she was down to earth and real, blah blah blah. Heard it all before from the last guy she snuck into our home.