Just wanting some advice I guess I (25f) and my partner (28m) had a threesome nearly 12 months. I made sure we had the proper conversations beforehand, boundaries etc. I will note that a threesome was something we both wanted and to make me comfortable, he agreed all communication and organisation prior and after was done by myself. Now the threesome itself was fine. He made sure I was comfortable and reassured the entire time and all three of us ended up enjoying it while staying within the boundaries my partner and I had agreed to. Since that time, we have gotten married and I recently found out he has been in contact with this woman recently. Sexual text messages, compliments, everything. I have confronted him about it but the conversation has been brief as I’m still trying to process. Just hoping for advice on how to communicate my hurt and what I should be asking so we can heal and move forward in our marriage. Did we bring this on ourselves? Even though a threesome was something we wanted to experiment with and had clear boundaries?