Currently dealing with the fallout from an affair. I feel bitter and angry and sad. I can’t let go of those emotions. I think some people have been able to heal their relationship after an affair. I don’t know what those steps are. I just feel like whatever they are, my wife isn’t doing them.

So, what can she do to help me feel safe in this relationship? What should I expect from her? What should I ask of her? What should I be doing for myself or be bringing to the table?

Are there any step-by-step guides for how to navigate this?

Edit: there is some obviously sad fuck downvoting everyone’s comments. It isn’t me, I assure you. Probably a cheater. Pathetic.