Firstly, this post has two points. The first is very simple; be incredibly careful and tread lightly if you have secured custody that you are happy with. She was building a case on me the first year after I broke it off post infidelity. You step the wrong way with the wrong person (learned who she really was and the intent she had - making her AP the replacement father figure), or even if you think they are amenable to co parenting post separation; be careful. Don’t scold her like I did for so long.

Second, provide as little details to CAS, or it’s equivalent, as possible. Do not avoid these people though; they have more authority than you think. I believe the decision I should have made first CAS visit was to tell them you’d like to speak to a lawyer before making a statement. Ask for the details he or she is investigating and say you’d like to get back to them after you’ve spoken to a lawyer.

In addendum, get a bloody lawyer as soon as the CAS games begin. So many good fathers have had their kids used as a bargaining chip because they chose to cooperate w CAS and answer their loaded questions candidly and transparently. This is incredibly important because the lawyer will educate you on what to say and what not to say. You need coaching before these self righteous feminist shits start taking statements from you. I should have sued my ex wife for harassment for contacting CAS because I yelled at her on the phone, for example, while I had the kids whilst she was guilty for doing the same damn thing when she had the kids but I didn’t call CAS. If they’re calling CAS on you, you’d also better reference similar examples if they exist.