After spending two and a half years with this girl, helping her for exams, being her emotional support, traveling together, and deeply investing in our relationship, we moved to a new country to do an exchange year and she promptly cheats on me. I found out only because I saw her by chance with that other guy. Further, since that guy is at the center of my now former friend group, I have been utterly humiliated for having my girlfriend stolen and have to start my social life here from scratch.

For months I noticed that something wasn't right in my ex's behavior towards me. I'd ask her about this but she always downplayed it, telling me that I am special to her and what not. I made it more than clear to her numerous times that I would accept breaking up on friendly terms, if she so wants, but even then she was not able to muster the integrity to tell me the truth - that she lost her feelings for me - and break up with me. I noticed that she was spending quite a bit of time around that other guy, but she repeatedly reassured me that nothing was going on between them, that they were merely friends. I suppressed my gut feeling in order to not be toxic and jealous...I couldn't fathom that this person, whom I've known for so long and so well, would lie to me. It wasn't until I ran into them making out, and later walking towards her place, that I found out...

I gave her all the space to be honest. She showed through her behavior that she lost interest in me, I wanted her to admit this and tell me why. Instead, she lied and gave me a false hope. I allowed my trust for her to take precedent ovet my gut feelings and she resolutely abused that trust. She irreparably damaged my reputation in front of tens of people.

What really stings the most is the lying, the imitated closeness towards the end, the faux reassurance which seemed so genuine. I could've left her so much earlier if it hadn't been for her deception.

In the end I learned that she is stupid, selfish, and of low moral integrity. Too bad that sometimes people show their true selves by hurting you.