So a few years ago my wife and I started using drugs and o e of the side effects of the drug was that it made me crave sex from a different partner. So I did the wrong thing and cleared multiple times and did not hold up my bend of the marriage . It was not just a one time thing and it really hurt my wide understandably so. Well since the use continued we never dealt with the cheating and kinda swept it under the rug. Fast forward to about 6 months ago andi went to jail for a bot and my wife found comfort in the arms of another man actually a man that had claimed to be a good friend. Anyrate I knew nothing about it but was getting told I should watch out because other friends and family thought something was going on. I denied it but eventually put my spare phone in her car and the next day she took off work went to his house where his girlfriend therebchildren and he lives for a couple hours then her car left the home for a wooded secluded spot up the road for 50 min then back to his home briefly then on with the rest of her day. She denied it until I showed gps the said she just went there to have hom look at her car. But she lied about even having the dau off . So she won't admit any physical contact and says just a friend but I feel otherwise in my gut. Then the story goes on to tell of a handful of other similar story's and lies she won't admit to. Now she wants a divorce and I want to both get clean and and fix it. She is reluctant to get clean and says it's to late to fix it she fell out of love with me. We have been together over 10 years own a home have no kids but I can't seem to get my head around the idea of divorce. Am i.looking at OT wrong when I say i.can forgive her if it's mutual and we work on fixing the marriage or should I just say fuck it and walk away?