So i am hooking up with someone who like myself loves rough sex. But in the starting i was not as rough as i can be and she asked me to be more rough. I gradually started incresing the roughness untill few days ago when i got rough i only did the usual basic things like choking, spanking, slapping and deep hard thrusts, nothing more. And i was not even as rough as i can be.

BUT! she ended up crying. When i saw her crying i got worried and stopped. I gave her some water and asked "whats wrong are you ok?"

She didnt say anything and just cried like a baby. Sobbing, trying not to cry too much but still not able to hold the sniffs and tears.

So i just caressed her throughout the night and dropped her in the morning.

Now i am confused......... what happened? Why did she cry? Did i get too rough? Did she not want to have sex at that moment? Was it a borderline R@p? Did she lies about loving rough sex? Why didnt she say what happened or how she is feeling? Did i physically hurt her? Did i emotionally hurt her? So many questions but no answers.

Edit: we are still talking normally but when i talk about this she say she doesnt wanna talk about it

Edit 2: i have decided to stop our arrangement for rough sex and continue being just friends untill she feels comfortable enough to communicate.