My gf 24F and I (25M) are each other firsts in everything sexual. She wasn't even sexually active before me and till now she mostly knows about vanilla sex. She has a basic idea of femdom and bdsm in general. Till now I have a quite a few times sent femdom pics/gifs while sexting....she really enjoyed it and said she would do it to me......

The issue is she never like to discuss or talk about this stuff....she is like what's is to discuss just do it when in mood.

Once she made me kneel and made me lick her up and some slaps and hair pulls.....but after this she was like she enjoyed it a alot but don't want to it.... because she thinks this will take love out of sex..... And I am also sensing she is really scared that she will hurt me so she never really punishes me. Like once she threatened me she will ruin my orgasm if I failed to make her cum with finger.... which I failed and she was like now I am going to ruin your orgasm and then she didn't do it because she said how she it end with both of having orgasm. I really love her so much for thinking like this but I wanted to sometimes be cruel to me aswell punish and abuse the hell out of me Since she doesn't like to discuss I don't know how to take it to the next level.

She dominant naturally and I am really submissive guy....that much I have realised clearly. I don't want this to a 24/7 dynamic..... but once a while for like a weekend I wish to be her slave.

We a few days back has a video call when she made me edge over and over and told she really enjoyed watching me suffer.

What I need advice is how I can teach her more stuff without making it awkward for her. I may be sounding like I am too demanding and selfish.

I tried writing a AI generated story with our names full of what I want her to do to me, I don't know if I overdid or was it the right approach.

I think somewhat it's actually going in right direction but I want to make sure I don't scare her off.......because couple of times I kinda demanded her to do something in between the act. It was like "you can do this to me"(femdom things) It turned her off and made angry.....she was like don't tell me like this what to do.

Kinks I wish to make get understand is petplay, some humiliation, foot worship, some impact play, be harsher and strict to me.

TLDR: gf only knew vanilla but enjoyed taking control of me. She is most of time afraid and reluctant to punish me. She doesnt like to talk about sex after we are done. She like to dominate me in her own way but she new strict or cruel to me. How to make her know it okay to hurt me physically. I don't want this to a 24/7 dynamic..... but once a while for like a weekend I wish to be her slave.