I 43m recently got a message from daughter 18f 19 this month who is away at school if she came home this weekend we could go fishing which I promptly agree. We go fishing and the topic of dating sites come up. I have been single since 08 she currently has a boyfriend but she starts asking about sites and kinks etc. None of this is unusual as open dialog is common both with son and daughter. Both told me when they had drank smoked lost virginity etc. and I being a medical professional and general interest in psychology discussed any topic openly pretty much with anyone especially my kids. So as she is inquiring the topic of a specific dating app I told her about dealing with taboo topics she wanted more details so I went through various topics and conversations I had. One in particular was f in relationship with father along with brother/sister seemed to peak her interest. Again not unusual as it peaked mine mainly for reasons purely intellectual as I had previous conclusions on general categorized group of people and these individuals broke the stereotype. Topic of another discussion. Anyways rest of the trip went fine but as she she gets ready to head back to school she proceeds to hug me and say I love you Daddy. Now this wouldn't surprise most people and all of have always been expressive about our feelings but what stood out was for years she always hugged one arm half to 3/4 body turned and always love ya dad. Where as both arms around my neck pressing body completely into me then holding the words I love you daddy softer more deliberate. I admit my daughter is attractive and stands to reason as her mother is also extremely attractive. Daughter is blonde athletic legs are longer than torso and even though she is 5'7 she has the appearance of 6ft. as I am part Native I am naturally darker she has a natural tan all year long. So she has an Exotic look about her. Naturally I dismiss this send her on her way. Mind is in a whirlwind with various thoughts creeping in when I get a text later letting me know she made it back and following up with could I make time to go camping soon. I agree and tell her whenever she wanted I would clear my schedule.

I am not absent minded to the physical appearance of my daughter or that my own physical appearance is average to men my age. Looking back my daughter has dated boys/young men that by her own accord have "dad bods" I have often recognized in my own mind (as I would never criticize her boyfriends as long as the treat her well) that she stood worlds apart in her looks than most the boys she has dated. Only a body builder came close and she ended rapidly based on his personality and immaturity. Nonetheless looking back I recall various moments where she wore revealing clothes around the house where as always modest around people. Never seemed awkward if anyone walked in on another son daughter me didn't matter. Being in my field nudity is as normal as the sun shinning but as kids were growing I was always self aware when they were there.(lived with their mom half the time). The recent inquiries on dating sites particularly focus on kinks the desire to spend time alone. The distinctive change in affection subtle change in behavior over past year gives me the sense she desires something more intimate.

To be honest I am more mixed feelings about this than I feel I should be. On one hand I am her protector her foundation her north star always there to guide her. On the other hand she is inexperienced and no one would better care for her emotions than I. Now this is my logical brain my emotional brain and physical desire is absolutely raging with this idea. If this concept ever entered my mind before it was quickly dismissed and overruled as illogical. However she is a young lady fully capable of knowing what she wants and how her body works. She has always been decisive and stood by her choices. Rarely making impulsive or regretful decisions.

So in order to wrap my head around this I sought out people with experience in this subject expecting it to be rather difficult. I was floored when I found so many stories. I have spent 2 days completely reading these. Even reached out to colleagues in psychiatry field only to be told this is far more common than I imagined.

I previously made a post that was much longer that didn't post or no one read then ultimately deleted as I struggle with this a little. But instead of just reading I am interested in feedback. Am I reading to much over thinking possible wishful thinking.