Incels often rejoice in learning about women being abused or even murdered by their partners or ex partners, claiming that she got what she deserved for choosing "abusive chad" over "nice incel".

And ofc it's often obvious that they just wish they had been the one to abuse her so maybe I'm kicking in open doors here but still.

A very central thing to incel culture is entitlement. Incels think that they deserve a woman. And not a partner in a relationship on equal terms, no - they imagine a beautiful, submissive woman ready to serve them, with no annoying needs or wants or feelings or preferences of her own. They want to own and control this mythical woman, see that as their birthright and are angry with the world and with women as a whole because they don't have it.

Some men with these kinds of attitudes end up in relationships and then get very disappointed when their partners turn out to be imperfect human beings with agency of their own. Annoying. Not always willing to do things on the man's terms. Sometimes sick, or tired, or needy in some other way, and unable or unwilling to cater to the man's needs. Sometimes angry. Unwilling to let him control her life. And her looks might change as well, or just not match his imagination.

To these men, that is not how it should be and clearly there is something wrong with her. She is denying him his birthright and he gets angry with her for it. And since she's denying him his rights, ofc he's justified in doing what it takes to correct her. Violence is wrong, of course, but sometimes it's necessary.

So... The more I read, the more I'm convinced that incels are just abusive men with no partner to abuse and giving them a chance is not a good idea. (Obviously not talking about every man who is single but wishes he wasn't, but rather about those who participate in incel culture or similar parts of the manosphere.)

Not that anyone is likely to, I guess, but occasionally someone tells a story about giving an incel a chance and how poorly it turned out because... It's not lack of sex that made them the way they are. It really isn't.