We plan on doing a full AUA at some point, but for right now I thought I'd answer one of the most common questions I get: can I say hi to you if I see you at the beach.

If you see us , I have no problem with a “fan” who would like to say hi and introduce themself, but please follow these guidelines to respect my boundaries at Black’s. Most of these things may seem obvious to you, but they are all based on past experiences, so not everyone gets it.

1. Don’t wait for my partner to walk away/get into the water to come up to me. If you are not comfortable introducing yourself to both of us, or want to say something to me that you wouldn’t say in front of him, then you should probably not approach me. If I am alone I do not want people coming up to me, sorry.

2. Do not have your cell phone out when approaching or around me. I post plenty of pictures and videos online for you to choose from, and I’ll show my face online when and if I choose.

3. If I’m naked, you should be too. It’s not even that I want to see what you have, it’s just that I believe in an equal power dynamic. If you want to benefit from Black’s, you should have skin in the game.

4. Just because you’ve seen me naked online, or even seen me engage in sexual acts online, does not mean that you get to ask me personal questions, especially of a sexual nature, when you’ve just met me in person. I’m at Black’s to chill, not to tell some person I’ve just met what I will or will not do, or have and have not done, in the bedroom. Black’s is not a sex club or even a NSFW Reddit post, but it is a sexy place, so I understand that the line isn’t always clear. When in doubt, send me a DM instead of asking in person.

5. Please limit your visit to 10 minutes. I enjoy meeting new people and hearing from people that they’ve seen me on Reddit, but in my heart I’m an introvert (probably why I get off posting things online). I go to Black’s to chill and it’s just not very relaxing when someone I don’t know well (or at all) decides to throw their towel down and turn our duo into a trio. We do sometimes invite other couples to hang, there is a different power dynamic there for some reason where I can still unwind and get out of my head. If you are a single male, please realize that I’m not trying to discriminate, this is just based on my past experiences at Black’s.

6. Do not try to hug me or ask for a hug. I may be something of a nudist but I’m not enough of a nudist where a naked hug with someone I’ve just met doesn’t feel at least somewhat sexual.

Have fun and be chill

- Diane