I'm a 36-year-old man living in NYC with an adorable dog. I'm 5'10" with a strong dad-bod because I like powerlifting and food, too. I have brown eyes, a buzzed/shaved head, and a dark beard. I'm generally a happy and boisterous person with a dark sense of humor. In my free time, I enjoy traveling, cooking, chess, movies, reading, hiking, trying new restaurants in the city, many nerdy things, and just being outside with my dog. I'm 420-friendly, and only drink occasionally.

But I didn’t make this post to write about myself. I made it because I'm looking for someone, and I'm not sure where she is. Maybe she'll recognize herself in this description and reach out to me. 

She is submissive, nurturing, and obedient but understands how counterproductive it would be for both of us if I had to micromanage every one of her actions. She takes care of our domestic life, so I can focus on being a leader, protector, and provider. She defers to my guidance for big-picture things, but I never have to worry about the execution of her day-to-day tasks because I know she won't let me down.

She keeps the house so cozy and clean that I never have to think about it. She keeps me in the loop about domestic expenditures like groceries so that I can account for them when managing our finances, but she knows what I like, so I don’t need to approve every item on the shopping list individually. 

She knows that I can only be an effective leader when I'm not focused on the things that she should be handling, and she feels fulfilled with my leadership style because it demonstrates that I have confidence in her abilities as a wife, mom, and homemaker 

She defers to my guidance on most things but is still able to articulate when something isn't working for her with respect because she knows that I’ll listen and sincerely consider her stance on the issue before making the final decision

Being a good traditional wife requires an earnest desire to serve, and she has that in spades. Her desire to fulfill her purpose as a traditional wife and mother shows in everything she does. You can see it in the way she carries herself, and you can hear it in the way that she talks to me

I hardly have to discipline her because she’s such a good girl, but she understands that domestic discipline is not for sexual gratification, at least not in our house. She gets wet if I spank her, and that's fine because we’ve never fallen in a pattern of me having to tame her every few days to get her off. She knows how creative I can get and that there are many ways for me to discipline her without getting physical. 

For instance, I once had her write a lengthy essay explaining why fully submitting to me is the best decision she’s ever made as punishment for disrespecting me. Another time, I created a rubric before giving her a similar assignment, and her grade determined the amount (and intensity) of spankings she got for the hiccup.

She gets wet just thinking of me having my way with her body whenever and wherever I want without warning. When it comes to sex, I’m her owner, and she’s my toy. I use her as I see fit, and she loves being used by me because she has a very high sex drive, and we trust each other completely. 

My wife is amazing, and we’re both very fulfilled in our respective roles. She understands that communication is HUGELY important in D/s relationships. She appreciates that I schedule some time each week in a neutral place so she can voice any concerns openly and without fear of reprisal.

My wife is intelligent, and that’s one of the things I love the most about her. She’s well-read, well-traveled, and has a great sense of humor. She’s always trying new recipes because she loves cooking, and I don’t mind being her guinea pig.

If any of this sounds like you or the life that you want to live, reach out to me so that we can make it a reality. Please be ready to trade pictures early on because physical attraction is important. 

This post is for NYC, but I’m open to helping with relocation if we hit it off

Dear wife, I miss you even though we’ve never met, and I can’t wait to meet you soon!