I’m struggling with resentment towards my partner over his paltry efforts during the years we were trying.

I was very understanding and patient with his performance issues, but it took him a solid year to acquire viagra despite having insurance.

We were going to put me on his better insurance at one point. He was going to get info about coverage and costs. Months later, I found the PDF online for his insurance fertility treatment coverage.

We moved in with his parents for support, but he never told them why. I was getting injections while we lived there, brought it up to them, and the mom told me (two days in a row) that we shouldn’t have children. I grew up in a home with my mother and grandparents, so I was hoping for that same extended family experience. It was during covid peak, so they could have been with their grandchild if we had a baby while living there.

Anyway, that was a few years ago and it wasn’t until recently that he was finally able to talk to her about it. Now that he has, I am not relieved - just disappointed and angry. Sad about the possibilities had he talked to her earlier, when he said he would.

I’m truly struggling to see the future in our relationship afterwards because infertility eroded any trust I had in him as a provider - for himself, and us as a couple - and I don’t feel safe in this world with a partner I can’t trust to complete important tasks.

Starting to think his mother was right, and she absolutely was not, but it’s hard not to. I don’t have family, so that was all the family I had to support us through infertility.