It’s not a big one, so I apologize for that. here is the original post

In the end, I didn’t reply, and that’s because very careful consideration, I decided that I will reply something more hearty right before the holidays in November. I also found that that he is also not talking to his mom (my grandmother), and he had lashed out at her because of this mess that he caused.

I have fully understood, that he truly isn’t interested in taking responsibility for his actions at all. He’s basically isolating himself and playing the victim, instead of facing his just due ire from the family.

I decided that when I do speak to him before the holidays, go basically force him into talking, it will be via text message, and I won’t accept calls, as I want all of his words in writing, until we come to a mutual understanding.

I don’t know if that’s too much, but I feel like he’s doing more damage than good with his behavior. I’ve just been avoiding the drama by not visiting my family or forcing myself to constantly talk to them.

Again, I’m sorry that there isn’t a more climatic outcome but I hope you know I appreciate all that you’ve said and I do plan to carry what you all have said in the discussion I do plan to have one day.

Thank you, seriously, and wish me luck.