It’s been 2 or 3 years of me bringing the topic up and her saying no. She’s flirted some with a few guys and been warm to a few when flirty dms show up in her social—but it’s only when she’s been drinking and comes with a 180 in the morning.

However, this week she’s traveling for work—which she does a few times per year. She suggested we get a ”secret” account to talk fantasy material. We set it up last week. This week she initiated the first hotwife fantasy dialogue. Saying that her boss and his girlfriend were hitting on her/they’re all driving back to her hotel and such. This was her driving it for the first time and I didn’t sleep over the excitement I felt. She also hasn’t freaked out the next day for the first time. So, it’s something.

What are some good ways to fantasize or play that people have experienced? More importantly, what shouldn’t I do to scare her off? Has anyone seen that, over time, fantasies make the topic less taboo and more normalized so it can move into reality??