We’re at the stage where we’re talking lots about the lifestyle and getting turned on by watching videos. But neither of us are sure this will ever become reality. He is turned on by the idea of another man fucking her purely because he likes to see her turned on. He is not into the idea of being humiliated either by her or a potential bull. She is insecure about her body and doesn’t believe the type of man she likes would be interested (she’s hot by the way). She also doesn’t want bigger. It can be painful for us in certain positions. She doesn’t like the idea of rough or alpha male behaviour. It’s almost like we’re looking for the opposite of how a bull is portrayed. Like the male half of a cuckold relationship who instead of watching their wife get fucked, actually gets to make my wife cum. We’re looking for the care and attentiveness a cuck would give their hotwife, but without the humiliation. What’s this called? Is this more common than we think and we’re just watching too many videos of alpha types? Would it be better to find a swinger couple where the wife doesn’t want to fuck? Or even better where the wife mentors my wife and her husband.