After some drinks and a deep conversation my wife has told me she may be interested in hotwifing, but her libido is particular. She has not had a lot of partners and she is attracted to kindness more than looks. She would need both of us to be relatively close friends with whoever we brought in as a bull before moving forward. The catch is we don't want to bring anyone in our small friend circle for various reasons.

My question would be if anyone knows of a good way to meet a prospective bull, become familiar, see if we click (ie if we'd be friends everything else being equal) and take it from there? Most of what we're finding is for immediate hookups which just doesn't work for my wife's temperament.

Update: Welp, that was easier than I thought! After some screening, finding the right guy, and lots of talking we have our first date Friday! Thanks everybody.

Update 2: as of last night she's officially a hot wife. Good times!