This is some advice which is for both female and male about making sure your ready for the hotwife experience when it happens.

Let's all agree 95% of the hotwife lifestyle is initiated by the man. (Swinger, open marriages, poly all seperate to that) . If you look at the reddit communities most of the threads are how to get my wife to be a hotwife... which I gave a response too also.

But what happens when you follow my advice , you plan , you communicate, you initiate and now the moment is here. Everyone is naked , your wife is being undressed by someone else, as a woman you have a man or woman outside of your husband intimately touching your body, your breasts , clit , ass , legs , arms , kissing your lips , squeezing your nipples , someone's cock is being wanked or is about to be sucked and it's not yours or your partners. Once it happens you can't go back in time. So it can be confronting for a male and nerve wracking for a female. From a hotwife perspective I will recommend women understand that their partner or Significant other will need reassurances during and definitely after. As a male you will need to do the same for your wife.

Example - husband you should be complimenting your wife how hot she looks as she gets fucked , or kissing her or sucking her nipples or telling her how amazing it is and how hot it's making you . Wives - the sexy looks to your hubby, the moaning how it feels but how grateful you are can make a difference to ease the anxiety levels of the man. This is not porn ! I repeat this is not porn. As a wife feeling a new cock inside of her or being intimate with someone not your partner is daunting, stressful and we don't want to fuck up our marriage. Despite how bad the men want it to happened that first time it doesn't matter who you are if you truly love your wife you will be torn in two. Lust, excitement and an extreme level of horny and this is off balanced by anxiety, fear and jelousy as another man or woman pleases your wife. BUT remember you asked for that , begged for it , sent stories, pics , videos , memes , captions , articles and now it's happening to your wife.

So my suggestions again communicate but during the act. Involve yourself , don't just sit and watch the whole time , provide emotional and physical support Give reassuring compliments that everything is going well and that it's ok. As a wife she will be stressing she is not upsetting you by enjoying it too much especially the first time. ( after that she will put on little shows for you) Discuss where the cum goes , outside , inside and location trust me on that one lol 😆 😂

Now afterwards.... ladies my advice for first time but most times. I love making an extra effort for my man after a play date. Its called reclaim sex for a reason, reclaim eachother and you will experience the thrill of the most passionate sex a couple can have BUT understanding that your man needs reassurances. Men have this misconception that women can't have emotionless sex. NEWS FLASH - women can have sex without any attachment better than men can. For me it is just sex , there is nothing lacking in our sex life , my hubby is well endowed , there was no cheating , there was no catalyst so it's just sexy spice. For me once it's done I can do my normal life instantly however, men will analyse , replay , and overthink it often creating tension or more anxiety. This is where as a woman just be gentle, give him hugs, kisses, light touches like your dating again make him feel like he matters and is your only priority. It is something I have done from day one and continue 4 years later whenever I play.

For the men - and wife wants to know she is your priority, she is not a porn star, she wants to feel wanted , needed and prioritised, she wants a nice dinner afterwards and to be made to feel like this is not just you getting your rocks off , its something you appreciate and she needs to feel appreciated and wanted BY YOU.

Ultimately remember there is a physical side but a mental and emotional side. The physical side i think we all understand, it's the other parts that alot of people don't talk about in the lifestyle enough.

I hppe this helps someone , if it did like , share and follow 😉 😊

😘 Rachael