My wife wants to feel wanted and desired. She wants a guy to be hot for her. To find her sexy. To be turned on and very into her.

We had a HORRIBlE experience with our first and only meeting with another guy. We literally left the location running for our lives. After that, she said she never wanted to meet a guy online. Thought online is only convicted felons and scary guys. So following that truly horrible episode, we have been trying to meet guys “organically” — she has dressed sexy, we have gone to bars and nude beaches, and tried to create an environment where guys flirt. Our efforts have been primarily on vacation. Despite our best efforts, we have had no bites. No guys flirt with her. No opportunities.

I suggested that I put my hand on the scale or try to stack the deck, so to speak, but talking to guys and trying to encourage them to flirt. On our last vacation, she saw a good looking guy and asked me to talk with him. He ended up saying he wasn’t interested.

I offered to try to find guys again online. She said that it feels fake and contrived. She wants that “organic” feel to feel picked up. To feel “wanted” and “desired” by a new man. To feel chased. To feel “seduced.” To have the “excitement.”

She also wants to avoid swinger clubs and resorts.

What do I do? Any advice? DM me. Thanks