So we have been swinging full swap for almost two years. We’ve met some great people and had some amazing experiences. Have even traveled to other cities to play. We are one of the few couples that really have not had a bad experience yet, knock on wood. So we have found that FFM and MFM are more of our go to ways to play recently. The only having 3 and two people being able to focus on one is just so hot to us. So recently we set up an MFM and met him at a hotel we rented. We had it all planned out, he was coming there straight from work so after some 30 mins of talking and drinking the Wife undressed him and took him to the shower, I undressed her while she did him. I didn’t hoping them in the shower I just got undressed and watched from outside the door kinda where they couldn’t see me. I wanted her to have this sexy semi private time with a guy and see how she handled it. Well it was a hot shower, lots of kissing and watching her stroke his cock. Well they got done and came out and dried off and wifey put on a playlist we use, well she laid him back on the bed and got out some flavored lube and went to town on sucking him. I should also add that this was her first experience with a Black Man, and he is very good looking, just got out of the military, hung but not thick. So typically I would be on the bed also waiting for her to swap over to me or I would be fingering her or something. But this time I found myself sitting in the chair watching this play out. I wasn’t saying a word just watching, where lots of times I’ll tell her to do something or tell him to fuck her harder, not this time thou. So she sucks him, then he pulls her up to his face and he has her ride his face for like 5 mins and she’s just grinding and sliding back and forth and just loving it. I’m still just taking it all in not wanting to interrupt them. So he flips on her back, goes down and licks her for a short second and then proceeds to put her legs up on his shoulders and guide his cock inside her. At this point I know this is a first for her so I was quick with the iPhone and got a video of him entering her and I got the look on her face, it was awesome. (I did take a few pics and vids before that part as well) so he starts just fucking her like she loves, hard and fast! She’s fucking moaning telling him how good it feels and tells him she’s cumming I don’t know how many times, well he hasn’t had any in awhile and we all did testing so he exploded inside her and half way pulled out and then she got on all fours coming toward me so I thought ok now we are going to spit roast her but no, she began to suck me and told me she needed more and wanted to be fucked so I climbed up on top of her. I cum a lot but damn this was a lot of cum dripping out of her. He said the months of build up to this point was amazing and he couldn’t help it. So this is really the first time I’ve fucked her with another mans cum dripping out, there was one other time but it wasn’t anything like this! So I went to town and I fucked her so good and the whole time I was thinking of how hot the shower scene was, and her riding his face and me just watching the whole time. So I cum hard and it didn’t take long. I had her lay back and I got some pics and video of her double cream pie which was so hot. So he got dressed and he left and we talked about how she liked it and it turned me on and I fucked her again not even 10 mins after the last time. We cleaned up and we also left the hotel.

So I say all that to ask this, she wanted to see this guy again, and I wanted her to see him again because I saw how much she just let go and enjoyed every aspect of it. But I told her he can come over and if she wants I could be in the other room just listening and maybe peak in. I couldnt believe I was saying this but with this guy I would be totally ok with her taking him into the room and having her way and not even worry about me. So less than a week goes by and she’s asking to fuck him again and we role play some and I set it up. He comes over and same as before, we catch up, wife is already naked with a silk robe on, she leads him to the shower, they do that and then she dries him all off. She still isn’t comfortable with the idea of me not in the room so she strips me down to and says I want you to fuck me when he finishes, I’m like hell ya fine with me! So she starts again with a BJ and she’s going a bit longer this time, and then he grabs her hips and pulls her up and she rides him for the first time! I’m just in awe watching and listening to this, the room is dark and they don’t even pay attention that I’m there, he flips her over and fucks her doggy. He starts slow which is hot but she told him harder and faster so there he goes, he’s fucking her just like she likes it, she cums more and more and I already can tell he’s going to bust any min because she’s tight, really wet, and loud! So he cums inside her and then proceeds to just leave his cock in her and slowly fuck her while she catches her breath. So he climbs off the bed and her she comes over to me, she starts sucking me off the edge of the bed and I told her lay back. This time there is even MORE cum leaking out of her. Now at this point I realize I am so turned on by getting to fuck her with his cum in her and adding mine. Same as before we fuck but damn it sounds like a slip and slide and cum is just going everywhere, Luckily we have a squirt blanket. So I finish we all clean up and he leaves. Well I immediately take her back to the bedroom for some reclaiming which again I popped right back up.

So my question is have we now entered a Hotwife dynamic? I still want to have full swaps and MFMs where we do DP and double bjs and stuff but with this one guy I’m totally ok with her just fucking him without me. Only a few things I’m still processing, we have a group chat but she has his phone number and know she texted him after he left and said how good it was and what she wanted to try next time, he responded with how much he enjoys her body and of course we can do those things. We haven’t done separate messaging yet but this just kinda of happened. Later on he messaged in group and she messaged back and all is good. Good thing is he lives far away and seeing him takes planning and he is moving overseas after awhile so I’m not thinking cheating or anything like that I trust her and we’ve been doing this awhile. But should I continue to ask her every once in awhile if she is texting him? She knows we have a rule and yes I’ve broke it before and now she’s kinda broke it but I knew about. But any future texts would be outside the rule. My question is how do other husbands handle this? I know a lot of the ones I hear in pod casts let their wives set up the dates and they text their bulls and all of this but this is new to us and I want to start it off right because it is a hot dynamic at least with this guy. Like I think I would let her go to a hotel alone with him for a play date, no over night shit. She is smitten with him, he is her first black guy, he’s good looking, smart, and we all get along great. She did ask for one of his t shirts thou before he left, he gave her one, is that weird or is that something normal? I know guys like to take panties.

Ok thanks for any advice you can give!