What most in the lifestyle will tell you is that no one experience is predictable or the same. Mood, vibe, stress, everyday life pressures all play a role in how the playdate goes.

Expectations is also important, I don't hotwife because there is a lack of anything in my marriage, I hotwife because it adds to the spice of the marriage and that plays a vital roll in how I handle my sex sessions. Almost always I have threesomes on a Saturday evening. And it's always just sex.

The routine; 1. Coffee , always start with a coffee. I then head to the gym or go for a walk to get the energy levels up. 2. Time for a shower and remove all body hair. Yes guys , women actually stress about this and are self concious. I laser but between laser you still have to take care of business. Wash hair, blow dry and straighten that's a few hours there for the guys to understand. Then make up and you could already be sweating if the aircon is not on. 3. Moisturiser all over especially my pussy , ass and boobs. Also good when the guys go down on me every part of me smells like rainbows and coconut 🥥 😋 but seriously this is a good time to involve your partner and get them to rub you all over. 4. Choose a banging set of underwear . Confidence is the key ! I make sure hubby knows what I am wearing and sometimes I add some spice by getting my lover to request a set or colour. That added jelousy can work so good. This could also be a good time for a cheeky selfie for the two guys or girls. 4. Pack and prepare for an overnight stay at a hotel. The playdate in my preference will go for a few hours and then it's just hubby and I and as much reclaim sex as possible and then def food . 5. Make sure toys and lubes are packed 6. I often don't eat alot during the day to avoid bloating and stomach issues. Yes guys women think of these issues. 7. I almost always open a wine the minute I get to the room to help relax me. It doesn't matter how many times I have fucked there are always nerves for me anyway. 8. Music is a must for me , it allows for a better vibe and removes some of the awkwardness. It also helps mask alot of the moaning because i can get a bit loud sometimes. 9. When the playdate arrives we all normally have some wine and light snacks and catch up on how everyone has been again this breaks the ice and awkwardness , let's face it everyone knows why we are there. 10. Normally I will take my playdate in the bedroom and start , hubby prefers this as the undressing and making out can be awkward when someone is just watching. When the action starts and hubby can be active he joins. 11. Remember it's just sex and have fun, respect the boundary and rules and it will be a good night.

Hope this helps a soon to be hotwife or some men understand the mind set.

😘Rachael