My wife and I are interested in this lifestyle, and have an opportunity to do this, however as it’s the first time I was hoping to have a threesome, or at least be in the same room as that’s what I’ve been wanting and getting in to. We brought the idea forward to the third however he is a bit relecutant to do so.

My wife however asked what about if she does this on her own with him and after they are done for myself to go up and reclaim her.

Now I like the reclaiming idea, however not being a part of the action for our first time has made some mixed feelings for me. I want this to happen but I don’t know how I feel about not being there when that was being discussed first and now suddenly changed to this. I’ve spoke to my wife about this and she has said she won’t do anything if I’m not ready or into as our relationship is the most important thing and obviously everybody needs to be 100% sure.

I guess I’m just looking for advice on people will have had previous experience on their first time. Did you go through with it with both of them in the room or just the wife and third? How did you all feel about it? Would you recommend doing things together first before going into this space of the wife and third alone?

Just to note, we do have a strong marriage and communication. We’ve been roleplaying and talking during the fun times as well as outside to make sure it’s something we want to do.

I’m not the best at describing things so sorry if some parts are incoherent and thanks for any helpful advice.