I have what I think is an etiquette question since we’re still very much exploring. Sorry for the long post.

Is it possible or is there a way to see if other wives/hotwives would be able to recommend or connect us with guys or bulls they’ve played with? Is that an offensive thing to ask?

Context - we have been married for more than 10 years and together more than 20. We’ve been talking about this (her with one or more other guys) for a while and really want to explore. We’re still struggling to find people, but in part because all the apps and all are good but many just disengage, and you’re still meeting someone you really don’t know.

I thought couples might be easier, but we don’t want to swap and I have no interest in playing with another - I’m obsessed with my wife and my attraction to her, and she definitely married beneath her from a looks and bedroom ability perspective.

I thought if others could recommend (no guarantees of course) then you would know they may not flake, how they were, etc - but not sure if that would be offensive.

Appreciate any tips!