So my wife after 2 years of thinking about it has finally taken the first step into trying this. I am the one with this interest in seeing with another man.

I need some advice on how best to go about this.

For any concerns for me. I am not the jealous type. I know I may get a bit jealous during this but I do know I want this.

My wife ended up contacting a friend she knew from college. He is already in a poly relationship so I believe he already has sex with other women.

She is still hesitant about this and is doing it for me. So I am trying not to push her and trying to help ease her into this guy. She wants to just set a date and just get it done with. The guy does want to start sexting at least since she brought this up but is scared to. The guy says he will be in our city in a couple months so I told her this would give them time to talk and get more familiar with each other. I told her she should take it slow and try sexting and getting more comfortable with him. Or at least for a first time meet, some touching, kissing and at the furthest a hand job or blowjob to see how it goes first.

How should I go about getting tested for any STD or things and giving information to each other? How I will know it's legit.

He says he's had a vasectomy. Which if he did is great since I would prefer seeing this raw.

I'm not too worried if this is not true and my wife might get pregnant. We have been married for 7 years and have never once used protection and yet no kids. I assume it's her who is unable to get pregnant since she says this was also the case with her ex. Having to already get tested I would probably have us both get tested to find out which one of us is unable to have kids.

I might never get the chance to experience this again. I would like to film this in the best way I can. I was thinking at least 3 cameras, 2 stationary and one handheld for close ups and POV.  Some lights and those umbrella things for spreading lights since hotels can be very dark. I know it's a lot and might make things awkward with a bunch of filming stuff around. This will probably be my only chance for this and if it never happens again I want to have a forever record for myself. I was thinking of buying or renting the equipment.

So the things I want are. 

I want my wife to go through with this. I will join or maybe not. Maybe only allow her to give me a bj.

I would like to see him go raw but not a requirement I guess. Expecting a creampie if test are confirmed we are unable to get pregnant.

I would like to film this since it may be the only time she ever goes through with this.