There’s really powerful secret about male sexual wiring that not all women understand, so I thought I would explain it for you.

While there is already a lot of good advice around on the subject of how to get your husband to agree to hotwifing, I want to explain to prospective hotwives how there is a hidden key to his mind that will unlock his permission. I’m not saying this is the only way, but you need to understand this aspect of male psychology.

The key point missing from much of the advice given on here is that no guy wants to give up his masculine ego and possessiveness willingly, you kinda have to take it from him! Even many guys who are aware of the kink will still resist it. Why is this so? Social conditioning is very powerful and there is still a prevalent sense of shame associated with being ‘cheated on’ in the male psyche.

Some people won’t approve of me saying this, but it is how male minds work - the surest way to give him this kink and overcome his instinctive masculine resistance is to first spark his jealousy in a way that is quite intense for him, but not enough to blow up the relationship. You can do this by commenting on how hot a celebrity is, or by flirting in front of him, or whatever level you think he can handle without completely losing it. I know, I know - it sounds manipulative (and it is, but for his own good!) and risky for the relationship but hear me out a little.

Every guy has a different threshold of jealousy tolerance and you have to gauge your guy’s manageable level of discomfort. So I’m definitely not saying girls should torment vulnerable twenty year old boyfriends by betraying them with actual cheating. I’m not a fan of breaking hearts, but you do need to break your man in :)

Anyway, after you ‘trigger’ him he will be jealous and most likely quite angry, and if this results in a fight, you need to see the ensuing drama as a strategic investment and just be a little patient. What will then happen, often within about 24 hours, is that his jealous anger will turn into uncontrollable lust as he finds himself starting to fantasise about you with another man.

He will find this feeling very confusing because he is supposed to be angry with you but his rock hard dick says otherwise. Around that time, you are likely to make it up to each other, and he will confess that it actually turned him on.

That is your moment to strike as a hotwife/vixen. You can do so by listening calmly, without any judgement, and asking him for more details. Get him to explain exactly why it turns him on. Just by having this conversation, amidst the intensity of you guys making up after your naughty behaviour, the hotwifing theme becomes an official part of your relationship!

From that point forward, all you have to do is take this theme into the bedroom and have him fantasise about it during foreplay. You can kick this off by teasing him about sharing you before you even get to the bedroom, just use your imagination and make it ‘playful fun’ in this fantasy stage.

In the bedroom you can try masturbating him, and as he gets closer and closer to orgasm, make him tell you that it would be hot to see you with another man, and then become stricter and firmer as he gets closer and make him tell you that he wants you to fuck another man. A standard kinky game is getting him to use a dildo on you and pretending it’s another man.

After he orgasms, and always remember this, his interest in the fantasy will drop off a cliff. During those ‘refractory’ periods of post cum regret, you need to build up his masculine ego, and make him feel like he’s “the man” and very dominant and sexually attractive to you. He 100% needs to feel that exploring this kink with you hasn’t cost him his manhood.

The best time to target him for hotwifing and sharing vibes is ALWAYS when he is at his most horny - you absolutely MUST his libido against him lol. The only exception is when it starts to become clear that it’s going ahead in real life and you reach the point of a sober, non-sexual discussion of how it’s going to work for you as a couple.

Once the kinky wifesharing worm gets into his mind, I can guarantee you that it will just get stronger and stronger over time, especially when he gets horny. The hotwifing kink is like quicksand for men, and the key that gives you irresistible control as a wife is the rise and fall of his libido.

A wife or girlfriend can turn almost any guy into her willing supporter as a hotwife by using the pattern I have described above of jealousy/anger/arousal/confession/fantasy/discussion followed by baby steps to the real thing!

Why does it work like this? The dark secret to becoming his hotwife lies in using his sexual jealousy to your advantage, because he will inevitably respond to that feeling by fetishising it to take the emotional pain, discomfort and feeling of masculine humiliation away. This is the reason why many guys with strong hotwife fetishes have been cheated on at some point in the past. That experience is humiliating and painful, and leaves a lasting scar that the fetish tries to heal by finding a woman who can ‘make him jealous’ but in a more loving and loyal way, without the betrayal and fear of abandonment.

You can use that basic framework to understand how it all works, and do it in a kinder way. Believe it or not, you really can control your hubby’s desires so easily with this knowledge. Remember, though, that building him up after he orgasms is super important, and you have to work hard to make him feel that he’s a strong and secure man to want to share you, because it will take a long time for him to dissolve the feelings of shame around that idea which comes from social conditioning.

Once you are underway with it all as a couple, if you do anything that he gets upset about, like going too far with a flirtation or something similar, you can often just say, “Sorry, did that make you uncomfortable? I didn’t intend it to”. His emotional trust can be restored very quickly and easily with open questions like that, no apology needed. What he will need is to feel trust in your transparency, and then he can submit and allow your ‘unfaithfulness’ to turn him on.

Always remember that there are two sides of jealousy. One is the super hot side, which is sexual competition, and the other is the scary and toxic side, which is primal childhood fear of abandonment by the mother figure. So your job is to spike his arousal with sexual competition, while reassuring him that he is NEVER going to be abandoned (the most important thing). He will love you for it, and it’s a balancing act.

One final thing - once your husband gets infected with this kink he will start to search for it actively in literotica or porn and literally begin to brainwash himself mentally which will make your job so much easier LOL. There are even self-hypnosis videos on it and something else you can explore is texting him kinky hotwife memes to help train him.

I hope someone finds this helpful, happy seductions ;)