Hey y’all!

I wanted to give a few pointers to potential hotwife parents that are looking for a third. For those that don’t have children, maybe some of these pointers could assist with your vetting process. It’s been a challenging few years since moving to a rural area and having children. I thought it would be nice to share what we’ve learned in hopes it may help others in the same place.

Before moving to the rural burbs we were using one app, why? Because cities are so densely populated with freaks that having just one app should suffice. We used Feeld btw and it was great for the city and state we were in at the time. I applied the same method when we moved to the burbs and stuck to this method for almost a year until getting frustrated. Well, my frustration led me to downloading another app, 3fun. Surprise, surprise, we were all of a sudden getting hits. I could be wrong, but I think different lifestyle apps geographically target different areas depending on the location you are in…some better than others in my opinion.

This is what I am getting to with apps. Don’t put your eggs in one basket, especially if you are in a rural area. As a parent, time is precious, so do yourself a favor and pay for the subscription! Paid subscriptions will give you more options to filter by distance, age, and kink…saving you time. Also, write a solid bio so it gives you a better filtered selection of men that reach out to you.

Now, onto the dreaded vetting process. I used to dread doing this, but now, I feel like I got the hang of things and it’s not that bad! I will first say this, we only play with men with experience. This is not a dig to newcomers, but as a parent, I ain’t got time for that shit. How do you know if they have experience? It begins with the bio and I look for overall effort they put into writing it. I also look for key words/phrases like, stag, hotwife, vixen, couples, and center of attention, to name of few. Next are their pictures, if they don’t show their face on their profile or if you don’t get face pics after a few messages…keep it moving, they are wasting your time.

Cool, their bio was well written, both parties have shared pictures, and the initial conversations seem to going well…now what? For me, this is the MOST important step and this step should be done on the first or second day after initial conversations. FACETIME THE THIRD! I don’t care what anyone says, in my eyes, it’s the most important step to all of this. It allows you to check if the vibe is right and most importantly eliminates the possibility of getting catfished. With that being said, if they cannnot FaceTime you within a couple of days of talking…keep it moving, they are wasting your time.

I am only writing this as we recently had an amazing experience with a third and it reminded me that this lifestyle should not be as difficult as some people make it out to be. Our experience went as easy as this, we matched, he introduced himself and had a solid bio, he already had pictures on his profile so I just shared ours, one the same day we FaceTimed, and shortly after we set a play date to play. IT SHOULD BE THIS EASY!

If you have any questions about the vetting process or the HW LS in general, dm us, we are happy to help!