We’re just starting to consider sharing. My wife isn’t big on planning this all out. I’m looking to get advice on how to set up opportunities for her where things can flow naturally.

For example, I think a great first step is a sensual massage. How can I set up a “normal” massage where she isn’t expecting anything but where there turns out to be an opportunity for it to lead to more (guy seduces her respectfully, etc). She wouldn’t be big on me planning anything like this but on the other hand, someone needs to put in some leg work here because finding a massage therapist who is attractive to her and willing to risk their license to shoot their shot with her seems like a big stretch. Would just like it to feel organic and natural. I guess the big question is where.

Open to other ideas too. TIA.