In typical fashion husband 43 expressed my wife my fantasy of sharing her 39. After the initial shock wore off and a year of role play and fantasy she caved to meeting someone in a social setting. I found the guy vetted at him and had great conversation. He said all the right things where I felt comfortable and we had a great rapport. I put him in contact with her and the two of them hit it off. After a few weeks of building a connection the night to finally meet happened. Everybody agreed there were no expectations but I think we all knew fireworks were inevitable. Could not have been a better experience the dude was great my wife and I connected on a level we had never been. We all got together a few more times they had great sex we had great sex afterwards everything was going great. Unfortunately his situation changed and it appears that his open marriage needed to close. From the beginning we were all in agreeance that everyone's marriage was the number one priority and when he told us this we were disappointed but totally supportive. So now 6 months later and wife is resistant to talking to anyone else and just wants it to be us. I don't want to manipulate her and want her to want to do this for us. I believe she really had a great time at least that's what she's told me but something inside of her is holding back. Here's the part that throws me for a curve. When we're intimate and talking dirty she says all kind of things that would indicate she wants to go down that road again but as soon as I try to bring it up in a non-sexual setting she puts on the brakes.

Any personal experience or advice would be greatly appreciated