I see a lot of posts in here from husband’s who have long term marriages and they’re wanting to share this fantasy after such a long time but they’re (rightly so) worried about messing up their dynamic or sharing something that felt so secretive.

I wanted to offer some wife perspective if that’s ok 🥰 so from the beginning of our dating relationship (we’ve been married for 5, together for 7) - my husband has shared this fantasy with me. I said pretty early on that I doubted I could ever actually go through with it but I didn’t mind describing all my other sex to him. This actually made our sex hot as fuck from day 1 because I love dirty talk & I also have ADHD so talking during sex is not only a turn on for both of us but it also helps me stay even more in the moment. Women have a tendency to have overactive brains during sex but this fantasy has kept me locked in pretty much nonstop during the entire 7 years. We’ve had dry spells like every couple but using this fantasy during sex without the pressure of me actually having to do anything but share sex stories made every sexual session we have ever had has been amazing. I’ve always been worried the fantasy would lose its glow but it never has! And hubby never once asked or pressured me to do anything. I just didn’t think sex could be good if he wasn’t involved (oops I was wrong).

Fast forward to the end of 2023, I start reading A LOT more smut (dirty books) and I am becoming quite the freak in my head. The books I am reading often involve MFM scenes and MMMF scenes and I start to wonder what that experience would be. For awhile I only exclusively read group sex books 😅 at the same time, my hubby shows me a hotwife porn and seeing both guys in the room did something to me. I hadn’t watched much porn (grew up super duper religious) so even when I masturbated (every night) - I would watch the same video over and over haha. We started talking about porn we liked which we had never done and we start exploring this fantasy a bit. I download Feeld and a little later, we start posting to Reddit.

It’s been about 4 months since we’ve actually started exploring this fantasy and after 7 years of groundwork, trust, opennness, and honesty - I am so so so happy we did that and that my husband shared it with me so long ago but never asked or pressured me to do it. We truly went with the flow of life and when we felt strong and secure enough, it made sense to at least try.

This journey has made us the most honest, open, and vulnerable versions of ourselves. I’m genuinely more in love with my man than I have ever been and I also feel hot as fuck. It’s so fun and it all started because my man took a chance when were dating and shared this fantasy with me. Who knew that he would find his sexual soulmate and now we get to be freaks together? I love it. All this to say - trust your partners, be honest with each other - the best (and freakiest) marriages are built on open communication… and maybe patience. Give your girls some time and maybe some smut books 🫶🏼