I (31M) have been sleeping with a hotwife (34F) for a few months now. She is not the first hotwife that I’ve been involved with, I’ve been in the lifestyle for nearly a decade now, but she is the first to have presented me with a unique ethical dilemma.

Do I respect our current agreement (check in with both her and her husband before trying anything new)? Or do I trust her and defer to her judgement about what her husbands (to be surprised)?

Generally speaking, her husband is a fairly submissive man. When we first met, she did most the talking and was the one who insisted that both them be on board to any changes to ground rules we have established.

As a bull I find myself conflicted. I take a lot of pride in being able help them “enhance” their sex life and introducing them up to things (BDSM, toys, positions/techniques…etc.)….

BUT I am only in a position to do so because they trust me wholeheartedly and have never given them any reason to doubt me.

I’m usually not super attached to most couples, but both of them are very cool. While I am not exclusive with his wife, I would consider her to be my FWB and see the hubby as a friend. He’s graciously let me have threesomes with his wife and another woman and we occasionally hangout outside of the bedroom as well.

Long story short, we have a good thing going and I’m afraid to ruin it and potentially lose some really good friends if I go through with this, but at the same I feel deeply honoured that his wife has come to me with this request to fulfill a kink/fantasy that I would normally love to participate in.

Thoughts? Curious to hear from both wives and husbands on this one.