I'm 22 years old, with an 8-month-old baby, and engaged to a 37-year-old. While things started off quickly and seemingly well, I've begun to question our relationship. The age gap, which I initially didn't think would be an issue, has become more apparent, especially in how my fiancé exerts control over various aspects of my life.

No matter what I do, it feels like my fiancé never supports me and always has an unwanted opinion to share, even when I haven't asked for it. From major decisions like parenting choices-like being called a bad mom for formula feeding-to minor ones like wanting to get a piercing, it seems like he's always there to veto my choices. Even something as simple as grocery shopping turns into a power struggle, with him dictating what I can and can't buy. I'm still trying to figure out who I am and what I want in life, but it feels like his controlling behavior is hindering my growth.

I recently made the decision to quit my job to spend more time with our son, which felt right at the time. However, after being home for a few months, I've realized that I miss working and want to re-enter the workforce. I reached out to my old job, went through the interview process, and got hired back. But when I shared the news with my partner, instead of support, I was met with discouragement and criticism.

He expressed his opinion that it was "stupid" to drive so far for a job and accused me of taking time away from him seeing our child. The thing is, I'm only 22 years old, and I believe it's natural to want to explore different paths and make changes as I grow. Just because I chose to be a stay-at-home mom for a while doesn't mean I can't change my mind and pursue my career again. I feel like I'm being held back from making decisions for myself and my future.

I love my partner and our son dearly, and I don't regret our decision to start a family. However, lately, l've been questioning whether staying in this relationship is the right choice for me. We seem to argue a lot, and while a part of me keeps telling myself that I should leave, I find it difficult to actually take that step. On one hand, I want to stay and keep our family together, but on the other hand, I yearn for the freedom to be independent and not feel controlled.