So, it's been a while. About a year since my (40m) long-distance wife (25f) had her first physical experience in the LS, which was awful. As a result of that experience we took a break on the LS and focused on us. Yes, she still brought up the LS in dirty-talk for me, but it never went further.

Two months ago, an old friend from uni re-entered her life. He reached out just to reconnect, and after asking some questions about him I figured he had a thing for her. She just casually dismissed it, but I told her that there was no doubt he wanted to ask her out and would have done so if she didn't bring her husband up. I joked that she could fuck him if she wanted, but again she just laughed it off.

A few days later she texted me that she was horny and that she has sent him some nudes. They even got so far as to set up a meet date! Unfortunately, the guy fucked up and tried to circumvent our relationship before their meet, and it never got that far. If he couldn't respect our boundaries as a relationship, he can't be trusted to respect our rules of engagement in this LS. The lack of respect for our boundaries was what soured us after our first experience to begin with, and we didn't want another horrible time.

So just last week as she visited me (again, we are long distance atm) we were in a sexy mood and sharing fantasies during some post-sex cuddles. My wife told me that she had the fantasy of fucking a taken man. She admitted that it was fucked up and wrong, but the idea of it turned her on a lot. She ended up sexting some guys right in front of me

To be honest, I'm all for her fulfilling another fantasy if it makes her experience even better/hotter for her. She records her fucking for me and that drives me crazy, so why shouldn't she enjoy the experience as well? At least that's my thinking.

She's going to have an opportunity to fulfill her experience too. She's going back to her old stomping grounds for a short trip with her family and there's an old neighborhood friend there. He's always had a thing for her since they were kids, and she's even sexted him before our bad experience a year ago. This neighborhood friend, last we checked, was in a really toxic relationship when they sexted. She didn't know at the time, but now she doesn't necessarily mind the idea because she knows he's potentially willing and it would

Has anybody had similar experiences? Is it maybe taking on too much risk? Is it a bit fucked up? It's just been so long and we're desperate to have an actual good experience. The guy is a lifelong family friend so my wife will feel comfortable and safe that he would respect our rules. Obviously though, this all feels morally questionable.