28F here. Pretty new to this lifestyle, and mainly exploring our kinks with my amazing husband. The extent of what we’ve done is having an online sexting buddy who we play with together.

Hubs is pretty into hotpast, so we were discussing my past experiences and he dared me to text one of my exes and flirt with him. I never turn a dare down so I did just that. This particular ex and I had an amicable breakup 6-7 years ago and there are no more feelings there. I wasn’t sure he’d reply, but when he did, I made sure to subtly flirt. It went on for a while, slowly building up and it was surprisingly getting me all hot and bothered. He was a bit hesitant because obviously he knows I’m married and didn’t want to cross any boundaries.

All of it changed when I accidentally sent him a text saying this is so hot and that I was getting very wet. I was supposed to send it to hubs. And to my sheer horror ex saw the texts before I could delete them! But from that instant, something shifted. We got to reminiscing and sexting but not in a very direct way. I then told him that I’m exploring my sexuality and asked for his consent, laid out some ground rules, and he accepted. It was very intense and it turned me on so fucking much. Hubs was enjoying it to the fullest too. In the heat of the moment, he said that if I were to do something in person, it should be with him and that he’s coming into town soon.

Now something about me.. I’ve had some issues with libido and this exploration of sex stemmed from wanting to figure out what gets me on and works for us. After last night, I feel like a changed woman. I feel so intensely sexual and I woke up horny and wet which has never happened in my life. It’s a surprise, but a pleasant one and hubs and I have been taking full advantage of my newfound horniness all day.

We had so much fun last night and I’m unlocking a sexual side to me that we’ve never seen before. We made sure to check in with each other at every point and were on the same page throughout. We have a very open communication and respect each other.

Fellow peeps, tell me. Is this something you’ve done before? How does involving an ex play out? All are consenting adults, obviously. Should I keep this going and see where it leads? Hubs and I have talked about what it would be like to meet him when he comes into town. We’re not sure since we’ve never done this before.