Wife and I are not new to this. We’ve done threesomes, mff and mfm, couples and the solo thing hothusband and hotwife. we love it all. but mfm and hotwife stuff are definitely our go to, the rest is just the sprinkles.

we always thought it would be best to have an on going fwb. safer, more private, more convenient, wife feels less used after etc

we found a decent guy, we both like him, he seems to respect us. he seems like a good choice.

I’m now stuck after a fight that stemmed from a misunderstanding, we have made mistakes this entire experience but that was the first fight and we honestly both understand how the misunderstanding happened and how it looked to the other.

that aside, I want this to be a fun and sexy experience and we have a great guy. just i’m having a hard time moving forward with it. she has even suggested that maybe no solo play until the 3 of us get more time together. we scheduled one this week but both him and I had busy weeks at work and couldn’t make it happen, we both canceled.

those of you with long term fwb. was there a difficult transition when you decided to move that way? I feel like I am getting in my head, my wife has been great with understanding of my hesitations and we have communicated thoroughly about my hold ups and how we think we will handle it. she’s suggested less texting, only mfm for a bit, him and I go out and do something just us (that is weird to me) and have him over for not sexy time with us.

most my hangups are based around he represents fun, excitement, etc she only will see positives from their “relations”. however I am the one we deal with real life with, kids, bad days, fights, disagreements, emotions of the lifestyle and things that may come up over time with him. we are great at those and she does understand the imbalance and how that can influence her perception.

open to suggestions, deep down we both want this to happen, we love the LS, we always thought a fwb would be great. just now we are here.