Me (30) and my wife (30) are together for 12 years now and 4 years married. Our relationship is perfect, but In this 2 years our sex was pretty lame, and the big “fault” is mine. I cum pretty quickly (2-3min) if we do foreplay than I can last only 1min. During this time, I also almost never made her cum with PIV (just with fingers (I can make her squirt), tongue, and sex toys). She said that she wanna cum every time they have sex just like old days, so now most of the time she is really frustrated that she can’t orgasm that way anymore. We tried buying sex toys, role playing etc.. The thing is, she has really high sex drive and I don’t. I think all of this made some psychological block in my head or something.

A year ago we were watching porn, cuckold category. And I noticed that she liked it and that I asked him if she would like to try it with a stranger. She replied: "Yes, why not, a new experience". And I asked her on occasion, both in serious moments and in hot moments, if she would try it, she always agreed. Even I, apart from toys, vibrators, also bought an 8" dildo. We have tried it 5-6 times so far, and never in my life have I seen it so wet and never thing that she could handle that size. Knowing that I'm about 5" and seeing her facing an 8" dildo, I get extremely excited. The last time was 1 week ago when there was a hot scene in a movie and a black man had sex with a white women, and the size of his penis was big. She teased me saying, "Do you know how many white girls have sex with a black guy (bbc)?" It means that they perform better. I would have tried it with a big one like that".

I decided to be completely honest with her, I told her that I was okay with her if she try it in front of me, just watch her how she can handle it. I think she thought I just say that because I was exited, but surprisingly I was really horny and I would love to do that. And then when I asked her more seriously if she would really love to try that, she answered “Yes, because I want to try new experience, and see how it is with someone that big.” I was surprised that she didn’t freak out but was really serious.

But what now? Do you think she would do it but is just scared that I would see her like a slut, or it is just a fantasies and she just told that because maybe she think I like to talk that way? How to develop this relationship further? Any suggestions from more experienced couples?