So the hotwife and I have been flirting with and trying out the lifestyle for a couple of months. We already have had 3 meetups and have had a good time exploring. The last two meetups though had issues getting and keeping it up. One who was new to this and it was his first time with a threesome, had issues getting it up and then came before even getting hard. The last one, just last night, said he had years of experience but again we ran into the issue of him not being able to get it up. Afterward, my wife started to cry a bit and said, 'What's wrong with me?' It broke my heart. She still wants to try again and even wants to give the second guy another chance. He is a friend of ours and has a really big dick, but there is some baggage there, shaky marriage, possible ED, and the fact he is a friend and not someone we met on AFF. Before we met up I told the wife I was a little bit jealous of him, because of his size, so now that I am trying to steer her clear of a third let down she seemed to react as if it was jealousy that was holding me back. The two guys who couldn't get it up both seemed to have an effect on us, where the wife wasn't really wet when usually she was dripping, I couldn't gain or maintain my erection, which didn't happen initially. I got hard and even came pretty quickly when the action started but once the thirds couldn't get going it just killed the drive. The first encounter we had everyone came a lot and dicks were nice and hard the whole time.

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So the advice part. Have any of you who are more experienced dealt with these types of things? Is it possible that now the fantasy has been fulfilled that the drive is no longer there? She says she wants to continue trying, but I am afraid of seeing her let down. She has been working really hard to lose weight, she was never overweight, but not what size she wanted to be. Her self-confidence has been returning after losing her weight and seeing all the attention from men, but then this happens. I don't want to hurt my wife's self-esteem over some guys who we don't click with.