I have toyed with this idea for a while, although I never saw it more than a fantasy. I did have some sort of exposure to non monogamy a bit before but nothing substantial, it was more talk than anything with one of my exes-- although we did some kinky stuff together.

Wife (28) and I (32) have been married for 6 years now and two kids. We ve never done anything kinky or what not, most of the aggressive sex we had were before the kids. Other than that she has high sex drive and I don't, and for the most part we ve been fairly vanilla with little action. I never knew how to open up the conversation about this or what it would be like to actually try it because fantasy and reality are different things. I am usually a very jealous person, but I love the idea of hotwifing and would love to try some aspect of it.

For me personally, I prefer my involvement and just the sex act, I don't like the emotional connection as part of it or like that level of intimacy if you will. And for sure my wife would def. feel the same knowing her.

She is very jealous type. She would not want me with some woman at all, which is fine by me. She also have self confidence issues so I honestly think this could help as well.

Long and behold I got into a conversation today because I wanted to poke around to start up alluding to the idea. It was about me asking her about one of the hot dreams she had a while back. To my surprise... It was about us going to a sex party she said and part of it was she getting pissed off with me because I was making out with some other women, and the other part was about her being tied up by me on a swing and having angry sex. She didn't say how that transition happened because it was just random two dream jumps.

I poked around trying to see what she says. She was very adamant about not sharing me but she didn't say much as to sharing her, she did ask me how would I feel if someone fucked her--- to which I really didn't respond.. lol

The other parts of the conversation was like, "I just only want you", and she is "shy" to even go to a sex party. And def. won't because she don't want to see me look at a women in some sexual way--which I am fine, I mean I don't care about having sex with other women tbh.

Anyhow.. I am trying to see how I can bring this up gradually without having her think that me sharing her is like I'm not caring for her or something. I feel like she might feel that way. And also I feel like she might think that me sharing her means she has to do the same with me.

Anyway, what advice do you experience folks have for me to sort of drive this conversation into something fruitful?

Thank you!

nick

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