As stated, we're a 20 year long- time married couple, and we've officially had 1 really great experience with a bull, and one terrible experience. The first experience was the first time we let go of the idea we held onto originally that we should at least try to connect with our bulls and verify who they are before playing. That approach really sucked for us. We both hated the drawn out texting back-and-forth. It just drained the mood for us ultimately. So we changed up the attack angle and started the hit-and-run tactic. We found a guy outta town and he even ended up being bisexual and into both of us. That was very interesting because I'm not bisexual, and I'm not attracted to men. I have realized that I'm very attracted to any cock that can throughly please my wife though. I love the idea of cleaning a nice cum covered cock straight from her drippy pussy, and I got to suck, stroke and hold a thick cock and balls for the first time. Which, we both loved. All around it was a great time. The second attempt, most recently, was my wife solo on a date lunch with a guy she met on a lifestyle website. They exchanged text briefly through a day, and agreed to meet for lunch the following day. I was so fucking excited because it was a major step for my wife to go out solo. She's ready to be a very naughty kitten, but shes always needed time to overcome her shyness. He bought her lunch, and I arranged for them to have our bedroom available to fuck in if my wife decided too. When I got the text that she wanted to bring him home, my dick could've exploded. I was so hard and turned on. I vacated the house, and waited for her to confirm she was safe at home with him and about to get some dick. The guys are all supposed to record clips while fucking my wife and send them to me. In particular, I want to see that cock creampie my wife and pull out leaving her a mess for me to cleanup. So about an hour later, my wife messaged that she's finished and he's gone. I could sense the frustration immediately. Nothing that happened was anticipated. Her playmate turned out to have what my wife calls, mommy issues. Additionally, he couldn't perform for more than a few seconds before verbally asking to rest. AND, he was less than adequate in cock size and performance. According to my wife, he had wanted to sit in her lap and suck her tits like a baby. Kudos if that's your thing, but we needed a bull that could make her beg for his cum, not that. Eventually, maybe 15 minutes into it, my wife made the executive decision to jerk the guy off until he came and sent him on his way. She didn't even get close to cumming a single time and she felt gross afterward. This was my wife's first time picking a guy online, without any interacting with me, and taking the lead to have a solo adventure in fuckland which ended as a shit show. My question is this: how many of you have had something like this happen? How did you adjust, grow, maneuver forward after seeing how uncomfortable your wife was? Did she get back up and try again right away or did she shut down instead? What have you experienced similar to this and how did you go about preventing further weird ass encounters? Im really curious because my wife and I have worked towards this lifestyle for years, and I'm still excited for more new firsts. I have dreams of her submitting to another lifestyle couple and returning home to me with sheer ecstasy on her face. Not more disappointment. If you're wondering, she's not shown any sign of losing interest in future encounters, but another shitty experience could definitely do that. Id do whatever she decided, regardless, but damn. A man has hopes. Later yall