25M and 26F, been together 8 years and have discussed and want to try hotwifing/MFM.
We decided it would be my (M25) responsibility to find the guys and vet them before introducing them to her. Found one that was a perfect fit, verified, and then 2 days before our planned meet up just completely ghosted me.
Haven’t been able to find anyone who fits our standards since. Hopes are getting very crushed that we’ll ever be able to fulfill our fantasy.
Thanks for any help!
Most of our guys have come from here (using swingersr4r or dirtyr4r or even one of the city-specific r4r subs). We've also had plenty of luck on Feeld and other apps/sites (like 3fun and Kasidie).
There will always be flakes, but as long as you're upfront about what you're looking for, and the guy has some experience, I think you'll definitely find someone.
You might also want to involve your lady a bit more if she's open to it. When hubby and I are doing swipes in one of the apps, we have fun doing it together.
We’ve found guys as thirds to be significantly more flakey than girls.
I feel like it’s one of those acquired skills. The more you try, the more you’ll be able to sift out the bad ones. I’ve found that the down to earth guys that are laid back, easy going and not pushy at all tend to be the most likely not to flake for me.
Once you find a good one, keep him!
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Best of luck! I'm sure it'll be worth the wait/work.