My wife and I both 37 decided to explore this lifestyle to spice up things in our sex life. We have been together for 17 years and live a great life and completely enjoy each other. We are completely open to each other and hold nothing back so I feel like our communication between us is great.

We have enjoyed the lifestyle and both like it. we have had amazing sex from opening up and exploring new sexual excitements and fantasies. But the question that I have as the husband is my wife will tell me she enjoys it and wants to continue to have fun and be an active hotwife but will only persue her wants if i get her turned on enough to go do it.

So I as the husband am very confused as to why I have to be the one to get her excited enough to do something that she says she wants. My wife has had multiple meet ups with her play toy over the last couple years and enjoys being able to explore her sexual fantasies and so on. I as her husband that knows her very well can read her expressions and know what’s she is thinking or how excited she is and so on so it’s hard for her to hold anything back from me. But for me it’s hard to grasp that I have to get her turned on enough to take the plunge to go out and play as she tells me that it’s something she wants and enjoys. For me if it’s something I want and enjoy I feel like I wouldn’t need a pep talk or someone to get me turned on enough to enjoy something I am wanting.

Im very curious to see what the active hotwifes on her have to say or if you feel the same way my wife does or if im just missing something.