I’ve posted on other subs about my slow progress. For the last few years, we’ve done a lot of roleplaying and dirty talk during sex which could get really hot, but nothing came out of that. I was hesitant to open up about my true fantasies. The other night while watching a show my wife asked about what my kinks were. I told her the roleplaying that we do is what I fantasize about, watching her with another man. She admitted that me enjoying that turns her on and that the fantasy was mutual. This was the first time I came out and said what my fantasy was and the first time that has been brought up outside of sex. The next night we had a similar conversation and I found out another fantasy of hers is being with two men, but then when I started asking more questions the comment of “not in real life” was mentioned. Those past two nights really spurred my fantasies of sharing her and I’ve been so horny the past few days. She’s generally shy when it comes to sex, and wasn’t completely open when I asked about her fantasies. How can I keep the momentum? And how valid was that “not in real life” comment? Was that just her shy self talking?