Hi there my wife and i are currently looking for our first experience wether it be together or her by herself. She has said that if she is out with friends and meets a guy then obviously this would be done by herself going to his place or whatever and that if i am to be present it would be on the basis of us going away for the weekend and finding someone before we go or hookup she finds while we are on a night out together all be it if the guy is ok with this. Now the other thing is that she has said the only person she would and wants to try and have sex with is an old friend of mine. Known for being hung and had slept with some of her friends in the past and she has been told he is amazing and i know as being an old friend he is hung and definitely had a reputation. I always thought she had a thing for him and she never would admit this only until as recently as last year and I haven’t been friends with this guy in at least 7 years. She always maintained she hated him. But now after sharing talk etc and me asking if she would go with anyone she knew she said his name. I agreed and said i only want her to have the best time possible and if she wanted to try get with him then im happy. She had said she had worries of it getting out and she hates the thought of people talking about her.(she gets really anxious) she said he is an arsehole but is drawn to the badboy in him and wants to be in control and use him the way he uses woman. Obviously in my head im like well obviously its not girl power you are going for here obviously u think he is hot and will be getting a good fuck out of it haha but she has now said that she still wants to if opportunity came around, but that if it got out that she wants me to support her and not be like… oh see u shouldnt have done that and if i have doubts to tell her now and she will drop the idea. I said i want u to fuck him as much as u do i want that. Doubts wise on my end are only the same as yours. Everything after the fact is possible. It may get out and people may talk. So really ur worries are the same so i cannot say i have none just to give u a green light because u also have the same worries. If u choose to do it u are doing so going into it with same worried as me so it is ur choice but i am with u all the way. I feel like she wants it that bad she is trying to play it down by saying shel stop if i have the doubts. The same doubts she has but not stopping herself she looking for me to tell her no which then i feel looks bad on my end as it looks like i am going back on my word of saying whoever she wants im on board with. Which i am. She also said what if he meets me with my friends and trys to make fun of me and it starts a fight. She mentioned this possible doubt but then said to me if i have any doubts she wont haha just seems weird dont know what to make of if